Mother of the Year ~ Candy Spelling

Candy Spelling, wife of the late Aaron Spelling, is well known in Hollyweird for two things. The first is having entire rooms in her house devoted to wrapping presents and dolls. The second and the reason for this post, is feuding with her daughter - Beverley Hill's 90210's Donna Martin - AKA Tori Spelling. Candy and Tori have never really gotten along. Tori was daddy's little girl, and this seems to have irked Candy. And remember when Candy basically accused Tori of being the cause of Aaron's death. I wish she was my mom! That wouldn't scar a child for life at all!

This latest open letter to her daughter (she penned another one back in April), that Candy released to TMZ (of course she did) has taken the concept of Mommy Dearest to a whole new level. Joan Crawford needs to crawl out of the grave and had over the crown to model of mothering perfection - Candy Spelling. The letter in it's entirety is below.

EXCLUSIVE TO: TMZ.COM
TO: MIDDLE-AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)
FROM: CANDY SPELLING

I Know many middle-aged people have issues about their parents and their upbringing. I did. My memories didn't match all those of my mother, and, funny thing, it's the same way with my daughter.

Life has consequences. What you say is on the record. Other people have feelings.

I have a vested interest in this subject. My daughter, Tori's, two-part season finale revolves around my granddaughter's first birthday party and how she has made what seems like an agonizing decision to invite me.

Cue music. Cue sideways glances. Cue Lights.

I did get an invitation just in time for the RSVP deadline. I'm sure its delivery will be on next week's episode with some comment about my house or driveway or street or something they won't like. I wonder if that will be spread out over one part or two. Sigh.

A big party wasn't how I envisioned meeting my granddaughter for the first time; but, hey, this is Hollywood, and my grandchildren have become reality show props, too. At the time I emailed "yes," I didn't realize I was being set up for a two-parter, even though it was clear I was being invited to be part of a segment for my daughter's reality show.

Spoiler alert. Don't read this if you plan to sit through an hour of people looking at their watches and saying "she's late." I decided my first meeting with my granddaughter should be on home video, not primetime cable; so I emailed that I would not be attending.

Back to other reality stars. My husband taught me that the plots have to be fresh and updated. The same old whining gets tired after a while. Enough complaining about what may or may not have happened during first grade or YMCA camp, or what vegetable you were forced to endure, especially when you are privileged enough to be on TV and get paid for it.

For all the reality show personalities, please remember that real life doesn't get edited to make things better or worse or get better ratings. You're responsible for what you do. Life isn't just a show. And your families can't just be props. Make your own season finale without creating conflicts you will regret later.


Okay, after reading this, who else totally wants to call their momma & tell her that she is the most awesome mom eva! Cause, damn Candy, you are cold.

Most importantly: Middle aged? WTF? Tori is the same age as I am. F*ck you Candy. I am not middle-aged.


Now, let me be clear that I think it is totally insane and selfish for Tori to use her feud with her mother to boost ratings for her show. Don't try and tell me that is not the exact reason this little reunion was staged for her season finale. But for Candy Spelling to openly mock her daughter in such a public forum is unforgivable. I don't get it. I thought mothers were supposed to be more mature than their daughters? Candy Spelling has clearly never heard of taking the high road. Maybe she spent to much time in the doll room at her obscene McMansion and forgot how real people act.

The tone of the letter is so cutting and down right mean that if I was Tori, I would be done with her. Srsly. Do you really want that kind of vitriolic bile around your children? As sad as it is, some family rifts can't be mended. No matter how much both parties may claim they want to work it out, it is clear to me that in this situation that Candy Spelling is beyond help. Tori should just cut her losses and be done with it.


Until the next ratings grab. Or until she realises that Candy has all the $$$ and she is probably gonna get jack.

XO